I think you're right, person in the comments
, when you say that some people just don't get it. In this case, Mr. Anonymous, who said:
I fixed it by eating less and exercising more, with more exercise being the real key. I take care of my diet needs by eating a pretty strict diet six days a week and eating whatever I want on the seventh, plus regular weighings. That's not "obsessing", that's just keeping healthy... I think if you *have* to obsess over it there's something really wrong. Either you decide to control your weight, or not. If you want to control your weight, it's almost always feasible to come up with a low-maintenance diet and exercise plan.
Compare and contrast that comment with today's entry
in the Skinny Daily Post:
Making all of the changes that we must make to lose weight permanently can feel impossible. Overwhelming. Giving up addictive food, taking on exercise, cutting back on caffeine, buying and preparing whole foods, measuring, weighing, preparing, recording. It’s a lot to ask. It’s a lot of work. It’s a lot of change. Is it too much?
Both of these individuals have successfully lost a significant amount of weight. But Mr. Anonymous presents it as "low-maintenance" whereas Julie understands that it's "a lot to ask." I don't think Mr. Anonymous was intending to attack anyone, he just hasn't had the same experience as some of the rest of us have had. He doesn't get it.
I would respond further to Mr. Anonymous, on a personal level, by saying that when I am trying to lose weight, I am
obsessing about it. Because otherwise it simply doesn't happen. My habits, my metabolism, my personality-- they require it. There's no other way.
He says that if you have to obsess over it, "there's something really wrong." And that's the crux of the matter, I think. For some people, there is something--mental, or physical or both--that keeps us at the weights that we are. Whether these weights are "wrong" for us are for us to decide as individuals, not for Mr. Anonymous to decide on our behalf.
Because for me it is not a matter of just "deciding to control my weight or not." That's an oversimplification and--though it was probably not intended as such--an insulting one.