These Fat Rolls Are Made For Walking
"I am 25 and have been with Dave, 30, for almost three years. We live together and plan to get married and have kids. One thing that repeatedly comes up, though, is my body, and my failure to go to the gym or eat right. This has been our only real disagreement. He thinks I would be perfect if I dropped 15 pounds."
Her friends are telling her that she's not overweight yet but she shouldn't "let herself go" now, and she should take him up on his offer to pay for her schooling in exchange for her losing the 15 pounds. And here's part of Hax's answer:
"Unfortunately, your shaky body image is both the exact reason you should flip Dave the bird and the exact reason you haven't been able to. You're ready to believe his criticism is fair. You're also ready to believe, enabled by friends, that his offer is about your health. It's not. It's about a guy making his love for you conditional... I have three words for you: Run, run, run. And not in the exercise sense."
I think this came up before in the infamous "false advertising" debate, but if a guy tried to dictate what he thought was my "perfect" weight and bribe me to reach it, that would be the end of that relationship. And possibly the end of that guy's ability to bear children, as I'd probably kick him right in the nuts. Or so I'd like to think.