Fat-us Symbol
"'I don't think we're going to go back to worshipping obese women, but it's interesting to see how attitudes change as more people become overweight,’ Cawley said. Others argue that people are merely becoming more politically correct and that bias against fat people is actually growing sharper.”
”... just standing next to a large woman can be bad for a guy's image. The study had young women look at one of two pictures: One of a trim young man standing next to a svelte woman, and the other showing the same man next to a heavy woman. When the man was shown standing by the large woman, he was rated 22 percent more negatively by the study volunteers than when he was next to the thin woman. When seen with the large woman, he was more likely to be described as miserable, depressed, weak and insecure.”
At my heaviest, I used to worry about this sometimes when I was out with my best friend. People always assumed we were a couple (and that included people who knew us and people who didn’t) and he never seemed to mind. Isn’t it sad that I considered this unusual?
Damn it, I need more dieting penguin pictures to cheer me up.
3 Comments:
It is a tricky one to beat. I don't particularly dislike my body these days, although it has taken some work to get there. But if I catch sight of myself and my fiancé in a mirror, or even a window, I'm struck by how short and chunky I look compared to him. (OK, he's six foot two and thin.) And it does make me wonder whether people see us together and think "He could do so much better."
Not that I really mind, but I do wonder whether they're thinking it.
That whole concept kicks my ass too. My last boyfriend was tall and thin and great looking -- I've had girls try to pick him up RIGHT in front of me,like I wasn't there or they didn't think I was WITH him. He wasn't a prize so I think he enjoyed that in a sick way. HE thought I was gorgeous, but I had gained weight when I was with him and it did become a bone of contention between us.
My current boyfriend is also very attractive - he's a triathlete! He met me heavy and committed to me heavy. I fake the funk and never let on to HIM that I fear that people are looking at us and wondering what he's doing with me. I'm superstitious and don't want HIM to think about what other people think.
I hate to think of people thinking less of HIM just because the girl next to him wears a size 22.
We really shouldn't do this to ourselves, should we?
On Saturday, someone took pics of my boyfriend and me together, and there's not a hint of anything but happiness on his face. (The pics are on the front page of www.redofromstart.blogspot.com if anyone's interested.) I should be less paranoid.
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