Kids Should Not Diet
I read this article with absolute recognition. Every single thing this article warns parents not to do are things that my mother did to me, and believe me when I say it directly contributed to my lifelong overweight. I gained weight as a form of rebellion against parents who sat me down and told me, at thirteen, that my "ass was spreading" and that I had to stay the same weight and not gain a single pound and then I would "be okay." I wish someone had given her this advice twenty years ago.
Edited to add another link with similar advice for parents.
Edited to add another link with similar advice for parents.
posted by mo pie at 10:11 AM
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I was one of those kids in the 99th percentile or higher, who got her size 11 feet and 5 10 height when puberty hit at 11. Everyone was constantly telling me to watch my weight so of course I rebelled. I mean my parents were so hypocritical about food and exercise when both of them ate what they wanted and came home each night to sit around and watch TV. (Look at me still getting all worked up about it now - sigh). I just wished that they had instead done something with me (like took walks) or made healthier food instead of just ragging on me about my weight. I mean it was so devasting to hear from your parents that you might not stay so wonderful if you keep getting fatter, that you just might not be so pretty and special if you don't conform.
-fishtail
I think that kids should be able to diet if they wish and if there parents tell them there to fat then that should make the child more anxious to lose the weight to prove their parents wrong.When i was younger my parnts told me i was to fat and i am now 39 and a size 8. so it worked for me.
I was fat since birth...no joke. In 1965, a baby girl weighing over 9 lbs, was a big baby--and I only got bigger. Unlike a lot of the parents I've read about here, my parents never got on me about my weight. At 14, I was 5'3" and weighed 156 lbs. Over the summer, I lost down to 21 lbs and was the "slimmest" I had ever been. Again, my parents never said anything either way. Weight has plagued me my entire adult life, too. Now I am 39 and I weigh 171 lbs--and I'm still 5'3". My dad is dead, but my mom still says nothing about my weight. Maybe parental opinion influences some people's weight problems, but I am here to attest that mine is due to something else--not rebellion. I think mine was more to do with environment and the types of foods we ate in our home--as well as no involvment in sports. I am a mother of 2 boys, one very tall and thin (7 lbs 11 oz at birth), one very tall and thick (again--genetics. He was 9 lbs 3 oz at birth). I stress healthy eating, exercise, team sports, and a general appreciation for our bodies. My hope is that my boys will grow up to pass these beliefs on to their own children, but there is not much I can do about genetics.
Am I fat? I am 10 years old and 92 puonds. I am 4feet and 7in.
No, you are not fat.
I'm a high school student, and I wholeheartedly agree that parents should raise their children to be healthy to begin with, not put them on diets. EVER.
My father brought home Slimfast shakes when I was 11 and tried to get me to replaced 2 meals a day with them. He told me about Atkins and tried to get me on it when I was 12.
By the BMI Standards, I was 10-15 pounds overweight.
After all of that I stopped eating, really, and got down to my weight right now, which is normal, about 120 pounds.
PLEASE, PARENTS OUT THERE. NEVER TRY AND PUT YOUR KIDS ON A DIET. NO ONE SHOULD HAVE TO SUFFER THE YEARS OF PAIN AND ANGUISH THAT I DID AS AN ANOREXIC, BULIMIC, BINGE EATER, PILL-POPPING CRASH DIETING MESS.
It's taken me a while to straighten myself out, but I eat normally now, exercise reguarly and am maintaining my weight. However, my relationship with my father is permanently damaged.
No one in my family ever knew that I had a problem with food.
They still think nothing's wrong.
My parents are constantly telling me that my bum is big and that i should watch what i eat. I am 14 and i was always thin, but this year ive put on some weight. I am 5'7 and weigh 53kg (i think that 143pounds) and have become obsessed with my weight. I am provincial in 2 sports and top10 in my country for another. I also do ballet so hav muscle. Am I fat? honestly please tell me.
to the latest anonymous. im 14 too, 173 cm, 5ยด7 and i wiegh more than you, im called anorexic. but by the bmi im normal, going to under weight. you are not fat at all and if your parents say so then they are seriously wrong.
you would qualify as a strong underweight person. i would suggest you put on some weight, anyway not lose it. i know how it feels to be told to put on some weight, and in a way i envy your measurements but i would absolutly not try to lose weight if i was you, maybe you should just gain a little bit more:)
to reach the bottom edge of normal weight you would need to gain 3 kilos and after that youd have bout 6 more kilos to go before reaching overweight :)
conclussion, your not fat at all
hi, i'm 14 years old and weigh 53kg and i really hate my body, i've started walking home from school and at weekends, swimming and lots more walking but i seem to just put more weight on and before i didnt really get out much and stayed the same weight, i really want to stay at a weight i'm happy with but i'm just not happy at the moment, and i really dont want to diet but i eat fairly heathily anyway,,, helpp!!
Hi lozziiee! Please go here and read the entry and comments. I hope they help!
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