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Reader Tamara sends along this Salon article (which you may have to watch an ad to read). The author talks about his love for full-figured women, and the stigma surrounding his preference.
"I knew, from the time I was old enough to know what a woman was, that I loved big women. As a kid, the 'before' photos in diet ads fascinated me. The bespectacled, round beauties hiding under Snoopy sweatshirts in the corner of the school cafeteria made my heart pound. A plump teacher, a full-figured classmate, a cushiony customer in the deli I worked at in high school -- all were early crushes."
The article is honest, interesting, and even confronts the question of whether he's a "fetishist" because of his preference. Plus, he stands up for all the fat chicks of the world! Required reading, I think.
"I knew, from the time I was old enough to know what a woman was, that I loved big women. As a kid, the 'before' photos in diet ads fascinated me. The bespectacled, round beauties hiding under Snoopy sweatshirts in the corner of the school cafeteria made my heart pound. A plump teacher, a full-figured classmate, a cushiony customer in the deli I worked at in high school -- all were early crushes."
The article is honest, interesting, and even confronts the question of whether he's a "fetishist" because of his preference. Plus, he stands up for all the fat chicks of the world! Required reading, I think.
posted by mo pie at 11:18 AM
7 Comments:
Good article. I'm glad he's no longer in the closet about his preferences, sticking up for us and all. I also like that he mentions that he needs more than just size, and that he didn't grow her into a "200 pound tomato" - so far any of the things I have come across with guys who like the bigger laddies (FAs, I think they called themselves), were talking about feeding women large enough they were immobilbe, or close to it, loving to see them get fatter and fatter. Which I personally found rather creepy.
I honestly think finding plump women attractive is more common than people let on. My husband has a lot in common wiht the author. As good as he makes me feel, this article still made day.
Well I'm a little torn here, because first of all it's a nice sentiment.
But I think what some people find offensive is the fact that it takes such 'extreme' courage for him to stick up for fat women. As if he were doing some tremendous favor to us all.
And I found some of the article a little disturbing, as I usually do with 'fat lovers' tone's. Somehow it felt slightly off. He claims it's not a 'fetish'and I don't assume liking plump women is. But his descriptions of women and his own feelings seem to lean toward obsessive to me. Then he define's fetish, as something that you need exclusively to be sexually active. And I don't think that's true.
It seemed to be all about his life his sexuality, and his proving to himself that liking fat girls was okay. We are all attracted to others for different reason's. Do we really need someone bragging about his own 'courage' in liking and even marrying a fat girl to make us feel good?
For your info, Mr. Byrntout, my wife chose that pic.
Ooops!
Southern, if it makes you feel any better, I am obsessed about a LOT of things, not just women, whatever their size.
Loving fat girls ISN'T ok with a LOT of people---did you happen to catch the 350-plus letters people wrote, some of which said my wife is disgusting and ugly? Do you think all is well out there in the world for anyone who puts his arm around a fat girl?
Finally, I didn't write it to make you feel good. I did it because I have a story to tell---and someone paid me.
And because I am in love and I want the whole, wide world to know.
What a sad state of affairs if a man cannot declare his adoration from the rooftops.
Josh Max, I know you didn't write that to make 'me' feel good.
While you were getting paid for writing that article, it's subject matter and tone, simply by being what it is can give the feeling to some readers of encouragment, or help them feel validated. I'm sure you are aware that by writing that article you were appearing to be sticking up for fat people (women especially) in a world that disrespects and looks down upon them. In fact that basically seems to be your mission in writing the article.
I think the fact that you have taken it upon your self to come to this blog and comment upon these coments, shows that it is quite a sensitive article to you, and something more than a paycheck and a shared story.
I wasn't very nice and I questioned your motives and true feelings, I know that were our situations reversed, I would be a bit defensive and annoyed with me.(but I am rather lowly afterall, whereas you are a published author, take comfort)
I'm not sure what you are referring to...but,
I do not think the photo of your wife was ugly, she seems beautiful to me. I am also glad that you love your wife and seem sincere in your affection and adoration. I simply said the feelings I got from your article.
Also, declare away... is anyone here stopping you?
Peace is declared, baby! :)
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