And Not A Little Bit Scary
This week’s Comment of the Week is from Vincent, in this post, who writes… well, you should really go read it, but I will excerpt:
“I am a guy, who has a girlfriend qualified by some as a ‘fat pig.’ … Today, no-one dares insult her, as they know that I suffer from a tragic lack of tolerance for pricks and bitches. I have, once or twice, had to beat up someone rather badly, but apart from that my girlfriend, who is smart, cute, very funny and at times silly, now have the confidence and self-esteem of a greek godess. (A fair comparison, if I may.) In the beginning, people would often ask me what the hell I saw in her. (I'm a looker myself…) She is, after all, a complete nutter, clumsy and whiny. She is rude, confused, emotional, lazy and sometimes quite mean. I would then answer, ‘Well, yes. And I adore all those things about her.’”
Vincent, thanks for your post, but you scare me a little bit. You beat people up? “Pricks and bitches”? Your girlfriend is lazy, confused, and mean? You seem to think we’re going to applaud your attitude, but I don’t really know what to make of this. (Read his whole post before you respond, though, I feel like I left out some mitigating statements. Maybe.)
“I am a guy, who has a girlfriend qualified by some as a ‘fat pig.’ … Today, no-one dares insult her, as they know that I suffer from a tragic lack of tolerance for pricks and bitches. I have, once or twice, had to beat up someone rather badly, but apart from that my girlfriend, who is smart, cute, very funny and at times silly, now have the confidence and self-esteem of a greek godess. (A fair comparison, if I may.) In the beginning, people would often ask me what the hell I saw in her. (I'm a looker myself…) She is, after all, a complete nutter, clumsy and whiny. She is rude, confused, emotional, lazy and sometimes quite mean. I would then answer, ‘Well, yes. And I adore all those things about her.’”
Vincent, thanks for your post, but you scare me a little bit. You beat people up? “Pricks and bitches”? Your girlfriend is lazy, confused, and mean? You seem to think we’re going to applaud your attitude, but I don’t really know what to make of this. (Read his whole post before you respond, though, I feel like I left out some mitigating statements. Maybe.)
posted by mo pie at 1:31 PM
4 Comments:
The most immediate conclusions I can come to are that Vince (Vance? LeStat?) is NOT an average Londoner - or that average Londoners have undergone a rather startling metamorphosis.
I find her quite scary as well.
Waiting in the cold for 30 minutes for a total stranger, then grabbing and kissing him?
Hmm.
Isn't it strange how a woman can grab you and kiss you and then be embarrassed to tell you she likes you? Happens to me all the time.
She's nuts, clumsy, whiny, rude, mean, and fat. What a perfect, normal example of how of course there is nothing wrong with dating fat women, or that there is anything wrong with those that chose to date us. Really great example. I'm jealous that such a manly man who would beat up the pricks and bitches for me is taken. Oh shucky darn.
I suppose that it's nice (and a little bit disturbing) that they found each other and that genuine affection, as well as hot sex, have ensued.
I'm still trying to parse the second paragraph, though. Is he saying that her "confidence and self-esteem of a greek goddess" comes from his willingness (possibly eagerness) to get physically violent with anyone who dares insult her? Having someone in your life who will stick up for you, who believes in you, and who takes your good qualities along with your not-so-good qualities can be very self-esteem boosting, but the way he describes it here seems a bit self-congratulatory.
We've all been steeped in the archetype of the romantic uber-masculine hero who will stop at nothing to defend our honor, and when you're a woman of size in this world your "honor" takes a beating. I think what disturbs me about his comment is that I'm not sure whose honor is being defended. Is she an anti-trophy? Girlfriend as a type of social rebellion with a side benefit being able hand out some beatings?
Plus, this has the familiar smell of 'Isn't she lucky to have such a great guy like me when I could obviously do better, being the "looker" that I am.' Blah, blah f-ing blah... Adore her because she is all of the things in the 2nd paragraph and all of the things in the 3rd paragraph, but don't expect to be given a metal for qualifying her as just a little unworthy of your looker self.
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